6 Effective Habits of Happy People
Overall, I’d say that I am a pretty positive person and consider myself happy and upbeat in all areas of life. My relationship with the Lord is the number one factor in creating this happiness because He is the source of all joy. Aside from my spiritual life, there are a few things that I know help to assist in my happiness (and Brandon’s too) and I really feel like they’re effective habits that everyone can employ.
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1. Get Plenty of Rest and Eat Right
A somewhat obvious factor to happiness is rest. Brandon and I laugh because I think my body may require more sleep than the average person. At minimum, I need seven hours but I am happiest with a solid eight hours of sleep. Anyone else with me on this? On the days where I’ve missed out on sleep, it takes a huge toll on those around me and my activities. We all know that science backs up the need for rest, so why do we cheat ourselves out of it? It should be a priority, not something that slips away from us.
Additionally, eating right helps my happiness level. Brandon and I are not perfect in this area; in fact, we’ve struggled continually through the summer. Some weeks will be amazing: we cook at home, eat tons of vegetables, minimize unhealthy foods, etc. Then, the next week could be terrible: fast food, dessert, pizza…you get the picture. This back and forth juggle causes us to feel worse, especially when we slip. For us, eating at home is a priority right now because we know that we eat better foods this way, thus contributing to a happier home and lifestyle.
2. Prioritize a Passion Project or Find a New Hobby
I’m a big believer in having hobbies or interests outside of work (hints this blog). You have to find things that peak your interest, challenge your mind, or stimulate you away from the office. My creative outlet is this blog and it’s definitely become my passion project. I dedicate time and energy on a daily basis and in return, it increases my happiness. Find something that does the same for you, even if it’s on a small scale. Maybe you want to take up a sport, finally read that new book, volunteer for your favorite charity, or even create something that’s meaningful to you. Whatever it is, you’ll be happy that you have a hobby or interest other than your daily job.
3. Don’t Feel Bad About Netflix
Brandon and I don’t spend tons of time watching TV. However, with that being said, we fully believe that having a Netflix show (or any show) is fun and even important! We are currently watching Game of Thrones (on season 4) and I love that this is something we can do together as a way to unwind in the evenings. Although the show is serious, it makes us happy to watch it! Don’t be afraid of the simple joys in life like a new episode of your favorite show. We love looking forward to a new episode, watching it over a home cooked meal. My advice is to embrace a show with your significant other as a happy activity that you can both partake in and talk about.
Most people know that exercising on a regular basis is a necessity and a huge thing for your body. I’ve had an on again, off again relationship with exercise but I definitely recognize that I’m happier when I’m consistently doing some form of physical activity. I used to dance growing up and this was my main form of exercise. When I got to college, I was so worried about gaining the “freshman 15” that I went to the gym regularly, focusing on cardio. In grad school, I barely had time to exercise and I started letting it slip. This habit continued on with my first teaching job until I finally realized that my lack of exercise was hurting my mental state and wellbeing. Fast forward to the present: I’m currently doing Orange Theory Fitness and cannot rave enough about it. I’d love to do a whole separate post on the benefits if anyone is interested or wants to know more (just leave me a comment if you’d like this sort of post). Jumping back onto the exercise wagon has completely confirmed that I need it. Although I may hate it at times, I know that I feel better, look better, and act better when I consistently go to my class.
5. Foster Relationships
Relationships are a key ingredient to happiness. Personally, I feel happiest when I’m in contact with the important people in my life. My husband, my family members, and a few close friends are my circle of trust. If I’m out of touch with these people, something just feels wrong in my life. It’s so important to put the time and effort into growing relationships and making others feel valued and important. When you give back to someone else, you’re making yourself happier in the process. Don’t forget to take time and have a meal with your mom, give your sibling a phone call, or shop with a girlfriend. It’s easy to get sucked into the busyness of life and put friendships on the back burner. With that being said, it’s up to you to make a conscious effort and prioritize your meaningful relationships.
6. Allow for “Me Time”
Even from the time I was a little girl, I’ve been independent and am always okay with an afternoon by myself or a little “me time”. I cherish this time because I know that it allows me to revitalize myself and focus on my mental state. “Me time” can look different for everyone. Mine usually involves a hot bath, reading, maybe even a little pampering like painting my nails or putting on a face mask. Brandon’s time looks very different. He may want to go out to a gun range and practice shooting, or simply take Tara outside and practice retrieving birds. Whatever it looks like for you, sometimes it can be embarrassing to ask your spouse for a little alone time. I’ll admit that Brandon and I are still at the point where we want to be with each other in every moment possible, but there’s no shame in needing some space or time to yourself. I always notice that after my time, I’m more appreciative and happier when we come back together.